Your emotional wellbeing

If you follow conventional wisdom, you’ll believe that true happiness only comes from being in a loving, stable relationship with a member of the opposite sex.. Well that buggers things up if you’re getting divorced doesn’t it?

The decision to get divorced can be a hideously destructive process that can have long term and far reaching consequences for those involved and sometimes we need all the help we can get.

Eat chocolate, watch a favourite film with a chum, go for a walk. Whatever you do don't let things get you down. Staying upbeat and postive can be difficult but it will help get you through.

The divorce shaped hole will take some filling but it can be done. Make the most of your friends and family and as they say in Latin 'nullus illegitimus carburundum ' .

Many people and it has to said predominately women, derive much of their identity from their relationship with their spouse and their children - "I'm a wife and mother."  However, few men would define themselves predominantly in terms of "I'm a husband and father."

There is a good deal of awareness of the problems faced by women in life after divorce, and so there should be.  But what about the difficulties faced by men?

Getting divorced or coming out of a long relationship is always going to be a miserable time.  It can leave you vulnerable to smothering your feeling of loss, guilt and anger by jumping into another relationship straight away.