The children are most important

As more and more divorces take place amongst couples with young children the cycle of divorce and remarriage creates the formidable task of blending two families into one functioning social unit.

Life after divorce is nothing if not full of changes.  The world you had is gone forever and the future lies before you like a vast unknown land shrouded in mist and full of uncertainty.  Finding a new partner to share your journey is often a high and very understandable priority.

The two key elements of all divorces are the arrangements for caring for the children and the split of the family treasure both present and future.  These are not separate but intertwined agreements.

Learning to cope with difficulties and disappointments in life is probably the most important childhood learning experience.  Without these skills the quest for a happy and fulfilled adult life will be more difficult.

If divorce is all about the money and the kids then when the kids are all grown up, is it just about the money, isn't it?  Absolutely not!

The third article in the series continues with some advice to help give your children the life after divorce they deserve.

This second article in the series continues with advice to help give your children the life after divorce they deserve.  The quality of their lives is at least as important as, or maybe even more important, than yours.

The only people who are truly innocent and blameless in a divorce are your children.  The quality of their life after divorce is even more important than yours.  Their wellbeing must be your highest priority.