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Leisure & Travel Taking a break Holiday romances
Leisure & Travel Taking a break Holiday romances Holiday romances
We’ve heard the stories or even indulged ourselves while on holiday. Things look better in the sun, temperatures are soaring and so is your libido, so why worry? Read on to find out.
Sun, sex; sea, sex; sand, sex
Succumbing to the charms of the handsome stranger who treats you like a princess, or the enigmatic dusky maiden who satisfies your male ego and your sexual appetite can seem like a dream come true but such relationships are mostly just holiday flings and should be treated as such.
What happens if things get serious on your post divorce break and you take your Latin beauty home to find she is seriously unhinged, or your Turkish beau turns up unannounced on your doorstep with little more than a big grin on his face and a lump in his trousers? A holiday romance can lead to a happy long-lasting relationship, even marriage. But it’s pretty unlikely.
If you go into your holiday after divorce with your eyes open, and make your intentions clear from the start, a holiday romance can be great fun and just what you need after the pressure of getting divorced but it’s important to keep your feet on the ground when someone tries to sweep you off them.
Beware wolves (and their female equivalents) in sheep’s clothing
Keep your radar tuned for the serial romancer; the deeply insecure type who boosts their ego by having dozens of flings. They no doubt have a couple or three ex wives or husbands and have already slept with a few other people before you arrived.
Secondly, avoid those already spoken for. Not only is their other half waiting for them back home but they should be easy to spot as a fake single just wanting some extra marital slap and tickle.
Third on the list is the freeloader, the holiday lover who has mysteriously left their money back in the hotel room whenever it’s his or her turn to pay the bill.
Fourthly, the sex pest; the male or female - who keeps the conversation on sex and puts pressure on you to sleep with them. This breed is only marginally worse than the marriage proposer, who after just a few days sees getting hitched to you as an easy way to a better life.
Bringing more than memories home
When you return to Blighty there’s the possibility that you will be carrying more than just your luggage. Sexually transmitted diseases/infections, (STDs/STIs), are currently at a ten year peak in the UK, and amazingly, in the face of AIDS, syphilis, chlamydia and gonorrhoea many people are still not practicing safe sex.
When you should be taking more care, less people use a condom when having sex on holiday. If you always use a condom you’ll ensure your holiday romance is memorable for all the right reasons.
When a holiday romance hits your finances
It’s not just your heart that can be a casualty of a holiday romance. Getting over a magical sun-soaked encounter when it’s drizzling outside and you’re back at work can be hard. Harder still if your lover ends up costing you a serious amount of money.
The first thing to watch out for are those
international call charges. Then there are the trips to visit them again; more flights and travel expenses that could become a regular occurrence.
And when your lover finally wants to arrange a return visit, it could be the case that they mysteriously have no money at all, and can you pay the cost of their flight because they’re dying to see you? It’s at this point you need to ask yourself who’s getting the most out of this relationship? Odds on your bank manager says it’s not you.
Don’t take your holiday romance too seriously
You need to take time to relax after divorce, reflect and meet like-minded singles without falling immediately into another long-term relationship. If you make your intentions clear at the start and be equally firm when it’s over, a holiday romance could be the confidence boost you need.
If you go into your holiday after divorce with your eyes open, and make your intentions clear from the start, a holiday romance can be great fun and just what you need after the pressure of getting divorced but it’s important to keep your feet on the ground when someone tries to sweep you off them.
Beware wolves (and their female equivalents) in sheep’s clothing
Keep your radar tuned for the serial romancer; the deeply insecure type who boosts their ego by having dozens of flings. They no doubt have a couple or three ex wives or husbands and have already slept with a few other people before you arrived.
Secondly, avoid those already spoken for. Not only is their other half waiting for them back home but they should be easy to spot as a fake single just wanting some extra marital slap and tickle.
Third on the list is the freeloader, the holiday lover who has mysteriously left their money back in the hotel room whenever it’s his or her turn to pay the bill.
Fourthly, the sex pest; the male or female - who keeps the conversation on sex and puts pressure on you to sleep with them. This breed is only marginally worse than the marriage proposer, who after just a few days sees getting hitched to you as an easy way to a better life.
Bringing more than memories home
When you return to Blighty there’s the possibility that you will be carrying more than just your luggage. Sexually transmitted diseases/infections, (STDs/STIs), are currently at a ten year peak in the UK, and amazingly, in the face of AIDS, syphilis, chlamydia and gonorrhoea many people are still not practicing safe sex.
When you should be taking more care, less people use a condom when having sex on holiday. If you always use a condom you’ll ensure your holiday romance is memorable for all the right reasons.
When a holiday romance hits your finances
It’s not just your heart that can be a casualty of a holiday romance. Getting over a magical sun-soaked encounter when it’s drizzling outside and you’re back at work can be hard. Harder still if your lover ends up costing you a serious amount of money.
The first thing to watch out for are those
international call charges. Then there are the trips to visit them again; more flights and travel expenses that could become a regular occurrence. And when your lover finally wants to arrange a return visit, it could be the case that they mysteriously have no money at all, and can you pay the cost of their flight because they’re dying to see you? It’s at this point you need to ask yourself who’s getting the most out of this relationship? Odds on your bank manager says it’s not you.
Don’t take your holiday romance too seriously
You need to take time to relax after divorce, reflect and meet like-minded singles without falling immediately into another long-term relationship. If you make your intentions clear at the start and be equally firm when it’s over, a holiday romance could be the confidence boost you need.
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