One of the key factors that characterise the collapse of a marriage and the often provokes the subsequent divorce is a complete lack of sex in the relationship. For many divorcing couples the only thing they have ever done in their bed for many years is to sleep.
Many others have not even slept in the same bed. God bless the spare bedroom.Preparing for a return to a satisfying sex life is as important as getting your post divorce finances better organised to maximize the benefits of your divorce settlement. Most newly divorced people find they are not able to have the material lifestyle they once had when they were married.
Good divorce finance advice can help make the best of what you have and let you get on with your life after divorce.
Now back to where this started, talking about the importance of sex. If your life has become less well off materially then there is no need to miss out on a full and satisfying social life. Getting back to having sex after the trauma of divorce is going to be difficult, especially if your relationship has been sexless for some time. Your confidence may be severely dented and your reaction to this could go either way, hunkering down and avoiding meeting potential partners or perhaps being indiscriminate and seeking solace and great (or very often not) sex with a number of different partners.
Enjoy each other's bodies
Give each other compliments, pay special attention to the less favourite bits, make each other feel totally desired and sexy. You don't have to have a perfect body to be the most desireable person on earth.
Talk
Tell your partner what you're enjoying and why. Talk dirty but only softly at first to make sure you are both comfortable with the words and the ideas.
Engage in foreplay
Foreplay is fantastic fun. Tongues and fingers are the advance party checking out the lie of the land, probing gently to understand and satisfy your lover’s needs and desires. Don't miss out on this.
OK, so it’s the very simple stuff we all know about it but may have been forgotten. We do so at our peril.
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