It's about you

For many years it was OK for guys to masturbate to cool their sexual passions but women were not supposed to succumb to pleasuring themselves.  Fortuneatly those days are now long gone and women have as much right to this pleasure as men.

Never an easy subject to talk about but one that for many men (and women) is very important especially during a divorce and life after divorce.  At a time when sexual relations are at a low if not nonexistent ebb a little sexual pleasure can be a wonderful thing.

Many people and it has to said predominately women, derive much of their identity from their relationship with their spouse and their children - "I'm a wife and mother."  However, few men would define themselves predominantly in terms of "I'm a husband and father."

There is a good deal of awareness of the problems faced by women in life after divorce, and so there should be.  But what about the difficulties faced by men?

Getting divorced or coming out of a long relationship is always going to be a miserable time.  It can leave you vulnerable to smothering your feeling of loss, guilt and anger by jumping into another relationship straight away.

One of the key factors that characterise the collapse of a marriage and the often provokes the subsequent divorce is a complete lack of sex in the relationship.

Getting divorced is enough to give anyone a headache but if you are susceptible to  migraines then you will know just how debilitating they can be. Read the My Life After Divorce guide about some of the things that can set off that pain in your brain.

Getting divorced does not mean that you should turn into some lout wearing two for a fiver T-shirts from Primark and a pair of trousers that should have been consigned to the re-cycling bin a year ago.