For every crisis we encounter in life there are usually some indications before the event that it is going to happen. Divorce is one of those events. No divorce comes out of the blue, they all have history.
If your marriage is anywhere from a bit out of shape to in a very bad way and you want to save it you have to understand how to stop the divorce truck from hitting you at great speed.
There has been a considerable amount of research recently, mostly in the US about the reasons why people get divorced. The dramatic effect divorce has on both personal and national life makes it an important topic of interest and debate.
Our whole life is a series of interconnected relationships. Parent/child and wife/husband are probably the most important ones and our personal relationships the most difficult.
Divorce is never going to be a good time for either of you. Even if you are the one doing the divorcing it is going to be a stressful and difficult experience.
You get married, big wedding, lots of friends and family and the two of you are floating on a sea of champagne, good intentions, everlasting love and boundless hope for the future.
Perhaps the biggest casualty of a divorce is the loss of what can be called "the illusion." It's the illusion that "that divorce (like cancer) happens to other people but not to us."