All about the children

Divorce is never just a matter between two people.  The majority of divorces involve children and all involve the wider family of grandparents, aunts, uncles and cousins.  The impact on their lives will be considerable.

Divorce is a time of great confusion for your children, they are upset and they need your help.  The comfortable certainties of their lives are about to be, or have been, swept away.

In part one we highlighted the importance of talking to your children to reassure them that despite the traumatic changes in their lives created by the divorce some certainties will remain. 

The only aspects of divorce that concerns the law and hence the courts are the children's future wellbeing and the financial arrangements between the divorcing couple.  Nothing else matters.

Probably one of the most difficult aspects when contemplating marital breakdown what, and how, to tell any children of the marriage that their parents are getting divorced.

You may be waging war with your former husband or wife but your children are innocent parties in your divorce and their interests must transcend yours and be considered carefully at every stage of the divorce process.