In a divorce all of the complex relationships which surround the central relationship of the marriage come under great strain. The breaking of that central relationship will cause a considerable amount of collateral damage.
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We have all sorts of help and advice about how to regain your self-confidence and prepare for your new life. Feeling good about yourself is vital if you are going to be able to deal with the challenges and the opportunities that lie ahead. This is all about how to move forward from the past and embrace the future with hope, expectation and confidence.
Going through a divorce and coming out the other side is probably the most challenging thing you are likely to do bar solo dog sledding to the South Pole and back.
Recovering from divorce is not like recovering from a dangerous and distressing illness. With recovery from illness you know you are being cared for, your progress is being monitored and the medics will know the course of your recovery from past experience of other patients.
Divorce is now a process that nearly half the married population will experience. Does that mean that half the population must hang its head and scuttle through the rest of life after divorce as abject failures living in anger and resentment? Certainly not.
Divorce is never a picnic. Every divorced person knows that but the divorce experience is different for each person and has different impacts upon the lives of divorced people.
One of the great tragedies of divorce is the damage and pain that lingers for years like a summer thunderstorm rolling around the night sky. For those divorced with school aged children talking to your children's other parent can be a very difficult and enduring problem.
Having teenagers in the family is always going to be stressful and challenging. Getting divorced as well is going to add to that. Divorced parents who are not living with their children often struggle to maintain a good relationship with their teenagers.
The percentage of second marriages ending in divorce is greater than the percentage of first marriages ending in divorce. However, if you are going to give it another go then here are some thoughts about how to ensure that this time it's a lifetime relationship.