Two thirds of divorcees say that they do not think that there is such a thing as an amicable divorce. They could be right. To find out if you agree with them read on.
The post divorce fallout
So it’s finally over. The shouting and arguments about who gets the toaster; the bickering and snarling; the ominous silences and the sleeping in the spare room; the he said she said accusations. Finished. Done. Now it’s time to get on with things even though this post marriage, post Decree Absolute period could well continue to be a difficult and stressful time.
How long this will take will depend on each individual and what, if any support, they receive. Some will sail through as though getting divorced is as uncomplicated as nipping into the supermarket for a pound of carrots and half a dozen tins of cat food but for the majority of us, recovery from a messy, expensive divorce can take years.
Getting divorced is rarely easy unless you are completely heartless, or your former partner in marriage has run off with the babysitter or the guy who came to service the boiler or, even worse, your treasured Led Zeppelin mint condition vinyl.
However, one would hope the decision to get divorced is taken in the best interests of all those concerned, especially if children are involved and for those who have been in long term abusive relationships the effects are often far reaching and long term.
Emotional confusion during and after divorce
Inevitably you will have been through and continue to experience a whole range of emotions from anger and resentment to relief that he/she has taken his/her collection of pop diva CDs to clutter up some other living space during and after divorce.
Learning to understand what caused your marital breakdown should help you come to terms with your new life after divorce unless, of course, you are the one who has run off with the babysitter or the boiler maintenance chappie.
Relationship breakdown can leave people feeling bewildered and distressed. Initially there may be a reluctance to accept that the person with whom you thought you were going to spend the rest of your life no longer wants to spend the rest of their life with you. This will ease but it will take time. Like the man said it takes two people to get married but only one to get divorced.