According to a recent survey from some divorce lawyers, the reasons for divorce are changing. Traditionally infidelity has been the main reason cited for divorce in the UK, however this year, 'falling out of love' is the key cause.
What could have caused this change?
This sudden change in divorce behaviour raises many questions about the possible reasons behind it. Could added financial and work pressures have contributed to this change? As romance and good times become more scarce, a relationship can easily begin to lose its gloss. Could reading about so many celebrities who have soldiered on with their marriage after an through an affair be making infidelity more acceptable to forgive? Whatever the reason for your breakup one thing is clear - the hurt will remain the same.
The Divorce Support Group can help
Feelings of disappointment, anger, exhaustion and upset all creep in, and there is no quick and painless solution. However, help is at hand and you are not alone. Divorce Support Group offers help to people struggling to come to terms with their divorce. Counselling sessions are offered up and down the country to both men and women. Here, you can discuss your divorce in a relaxed environment with others who are going through the same experience.
Get the support of councillors and like minded people
Charlotte Friedman, Founder of Divorce Support Group says 'We work with people of all ages to help get them through what will often be one of the hardest times of their lives emotionally. Many people in our groups feel they have no one to talk to or don't want to burden friends and relatives with their problems. They come to us and find they can talk to like-minded people and councillors who will listen, offer support and help them find ways to move on'.
Divorce Support Group offers small support groups or individual counselling, which can be carried out either face to face or over the phone. Couples mediation is also available. If you would like some help, just get in touch.
I had been married to my husband for 19 years when we decided to divorce. We had been drifting apart for maybe five years, mostly held together by the house and our daughter, who by this point was moving away to university.
Talking to friends was difficult, as almost all my close friends knew my husband very well also. I was feeling isolated and struggling to cope emotionally when a friend at work, who had herself divorced two years earlier, recommended Divorce Support Group.
I attended ten group counselling sessions where I was able to talk through my feelings, which helped me get things clear in my own mind. I learnt ways to deal with my emotions, which would flick from anger, to disappointment, to grief, and to not to be too hard on myself if I was having a bad day.
It was good to be with people that were going through the same experience and who I felt wouldn't judge me, or make me feel my emotions were, perhaps, over the top. After each session I'd feel more and more like there was a light at the end of the tunnel. My divorce is the hardest thing I've ever been through and the support was greatly welcomed. I'm still in contact with two others in my group and we meet up occasionally and have continued to support each other.